It’s December 7 and we are into the 13th day of the 16 Days of Activism against gender-based violence. We have a problem with men’s violence in Australia. Ninety-five per cent of physical and sexualised assault in Australia is perpetrated by male offenders. Men are more likely to experience violence, with one in two men experiencing violence compared to one in three women. All violence is wrong. But there are distinct gendered patterns in the perpetration and impact of violence. Men are more likely to experience violence from other men unknown to them and in a public place; women are most likely to know the perpetrator (often their current or a previous partner) and the violence usually takes place in their home.